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“A fool’s brain digests philosophy into folly, science into superstition, and art into pedantry. Hence University education” – G. B. Shaw
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Some escorts are obviously not capable of using their own brain when trying to market their overly narcissistic business on escort blogs. And then have the “decency” at the same time to arrogantly finger point at other escorts code of conduct at the same time with a derogatory “holier than thou” attitude with the content of said copy-pasted private emails of mine. That is certainly some way to present delusions of grandeur to the world 
Certainly, strictly speaking there is nothing wrong with buying a marketing manager or a coach or asking for other people`s opinions. But in the case that happened to me, it is especially cynical and cold-hearted lacking any form of empathy or real understanding, because my opinion was delivered to the escort in question to contradict and criticise hers. And it was written in a private mail, who – by the way – are copyright protected. Neither was I hired as Marketing Strategist or was I asked for permission, before the content including its ideas and reflections on my very personal experiences were exploited by her for the gain of financial benefits on an escort blog visible by the whole wide world. That is very ruthless indeed . Here are some details to clarify:
My opinions within these private mails - not meant to be published in the world-wide web for financial gain – that were copy-pasted, were about how I was considering to never have a private affair with a married man again, because I feel that married people, who secretly cheat on their wives should pay escorts, because they cannot have “real relationships” that go both ways when making demands. Plus, it is more respectful to the boundaries the usual monogamous marriage presents, and a code of conduct that happens since centuries. Escorts and mistresses are meant to stabilize and support marriages. I was very young and polyamorous, so I was not thinking in terms of monogamy when doing such things, and got punished severely by the consequences of this ex-lover of mine outing me to his wife and as a result I suddenly was interpreted and turned into a bad home wrecker, and a bad witch that washes men`s brain with philosophies of polyamory. My intentions were never to harm a marriage, since my code of conduct is polyamory, nor did I ever ask said ex-lover to out me to his wife. I was respectful of the boundaries we agreed on, which was me being poly, and him being married.I never considered his marriage to be any of my business, nor did I expect from him to consider my choices in life to be any of his business. We had a relationships on certain points of connections in our philosophies, that were common grounds for both of our relationship choices. But my Tolerance and Respect had a bad ending for me, after this guy chose to out me to his wife and family which has taught me a profound lesson in life. So I came to the conclusion that a poly / mono combo never works outside the realms of escorting because of the different set of values and hierarchies presented, that will always make at least one person feel underappreciated, no matter how you toss and turn it.
I said to her in that Email that I feel like a victim of a monogamous marriage and should not have seen said guy for free, and that – generally speaking – married men are taking advantage of women, if they degrade them to be secret lovers, who are second class citizens in terms of ethical values. Second class citizens are people with inferior rights in legal terms and codes of conduct in society. What I learned from this episode in my life was, that , for the demands of secrecy people need to hire escorts, and that is what people pay for when they do indeed hire escorts. That is a proper code of conduct and makes you a first class citizen with rights to get paid for a service such as psychotherapists have. Unlike a second class citizen, who needs to be in hiding and has no right to make any demands, other than step into the niche, that two other people create that share a full life together. A life that sometimes brings them closer together, and sometimes further apart emotionally. But it`s a fulfilling life and any marriage or long-term relationship comes with certain intricacies. To break it up because someone comes along with the so-called New Relationship Energy is cruel and ridiculous. There is a reason why secret lovers change and wives don`t. It`s about the essence of “new”. Anyone seeing someone for a few years does not have to deal with the same intricacies concerning a relationship that already lasts for decades. Be it good or bad or both of it in intertwining terms, like it happens naturally in long-term relationships, where people sometimes are closer and sometimes are more distant.
Money exchanged for services is also what you do when you hire a lawyers or psychotherapists. Someone just doesn`t expect to get involved in their lives and have a fully responsible two-way relationship, instead just parts of relationships get delivered and are possible. And that is mostly all that is possible when interacting with people, whose intricacies in life require a certain amount of flexibility when it comes to time and legitimacy. Because what happened to me was that I got stabbed in the back for being loyal, insulted for being polyamorous, insulted for being an escort and degraded to a flake of someone elses life, when everyone started to insult my choices in life and present to me on why I only deserve to be treated like a second class citizen. And that is why I felt like a victim!
Said escort – however – thinks of herself to be better than the wives, because that is her narrow-minded explanation on why they need to even be screwing her and entertaining relationships with her on the side – and that married men only stay with their wives because their wives need them. Really? And that she thinks of herself as the best thing sexually that can ever happen to some married guys and she cannot understand how they simply don`t divorce their wives of thirty-years for someone as good as she thinks she is sexually, intelligence-wise and overall personality-wise, and replace their wives with someone like her. According to her, her married-clients-turned-boyfriends won`t find someone “more intelligent” than her, because escorts are usually not intelligent – with her – of course – being the great exception from that rule. Plus, she thinks she does look way more beautiful than the wives, who “can`t give it to their men”, and in addition are thirty years older than her, looking plain and boring. At the same time she thinks of herself as way more mature than other women her age (That means her being in her Late-Twenties!! Welcome to delusions of grandeur!) Again, who are the people she compares herself to? Her girlfriends? Or how can anyone claiming to have seen a university from the inside and actually really studied come to such idiotic conclusions in times of Sir Karl Popper and the empirical falsification process? (Given that, I assume once she reaches her thirties, any twentysomething will be more mature than her …. )
Relationships most of the time change, evolve, get stuck sometimes, take a downside and then end in bliss again or in separation. People grow together, grow apart, grow together on different levels and sometimes are closer and sometimes are more distant to each other. That is an evolvement within any long-term relationship something a woman in her late twenties can hardly have experienced herself, let alone proper understand, because they are simply too immature and too young for that kind of experience! How can you be in your late twenties and have any idea of how relationships work that are existing since longer than you`re born? Said escort also has the habit of comparing sexual experiences and physical looks on a sliding scale from 1 to 10, with of course giving herself the 10 in every occasion (who would have guessed her giving herself a 10? No shit? Would have been interesting if she gave herself a 3 on this scale, indeed….But a 10? How boring and predictable….)
I was criticising the opinion described above in a personal Email she decided to make public on her blog , telling her, that sensual experiences can`t be compared and she is acting typically heteronormative by degrading other people`s sexuality and putting it in labels of “good versus bad” sex as if it was a competitive sports activity. In heteronormative terms there are “proper versus improper” ways of having sex. Proper ways mean the standard plain vanilla sex. Improper ways are – for example – being a sex worker, having sex without love, sex without orgasm, no sex at all, et cetera et cetera …. And that trying to play games by manipulating married guys to try to get them to divorce by depriving them of attention are the kind of games, that waste people`s time and don`t go anywhere.
I tried to explain to her , that with her derogatory attitude she supports heteronormativity and plays games, that usually lead nowhere, except wasting precious time of life. How would she feel if someone judges her like that? And how would she know how intelligent most escorts are? Does she know some?! If yes – Is the talking about the ones she exchanges banners with or the ones she claims to be friends with?! In Austria we have a saying that goes “If you have friends like that, you do not need enemies anymore”. Unfortunately it`s most always narcissistic people who are not really the brightest bulbs on the planet, who feel the need to feed on other people`s pain , so they can think of themselves as important, and in addition make it all about them. Oh wow! Didn`t think that I find the DSM IV so clearly represented. Some narcissists, particularly lacking any form of human empathy, even have the cruelty to copy other people`s intellectual property based on said tragedies, for business conducts and the gain of money. Nothing new here.
What I haven`t witnessed before is someone stealing my exact words and experiences I have lived through and experienced by living a life outside heteronormativity – with all it´s consequences, consequences I used to reflect on mistakes made, and how to avoid them in the future – and having the guts to use that to attract potential escort clients by pretending these are HER thoughts, reflections, conclusions and writings – while actually holding completely different opinions in reality and looking down on other escorts business conduct at the same time – using my exact words to criticise another escort at the same time! That is the utmost of frivolity and cruelty and shameless.
So, what exactly does this self-proclaimed most intelligent of all escorts do? She copy pastes my opinion on some USA escort blog board, stating on how she always felt like a victim when she does not charge money for sex, and criticising some other USA escorts behaviour with MY words to her, on how she – suddenly – feels sensual experiences can`t be compared and the games this other US-based escort plays with her clients are typical for heteronormative games to play, and how she does not understand on how someone can act like this. Seriously? Yes, seriously! I shit you not!
Additionally, for someone who states on her homepage that she likes to indulge in “guilty pleasures”, it is very naïve and not well understood to actually use the word heteronormativity when criticising other escorts. Because only someone who participates in heteronormative judgements and standards within their escort activity would find an activity like pleasure to be something that could be judged as “guilty” in certain contexts – aka heteronormative and contexts. A contrast to this idea of guilty pleasures has been set by the “Sex Positive Movement”, for example, which promotes all kinds of pleasures to be judged as good. Some should at least get facts right when using criteria to brag about themselves! There are people out there, who actively fight for sexpositivism, against heteronormative laws, and then some brainless hypocrites, that lives in exactly these set boundaries of heteronormativity decorate themselves with the outcome of said hard work? Seriously? Some people don`t stop short of condescending arrogance like that! Unbelievably!
So, now I clarify and present a precise analysis of my point about the other escort that got judged by her: She bashes another escort by lecturing this escort that her codes of conduct are heteronormative games best avoided within escorting, and on how she sees herself as so much better than that, because she does not need to play games like that (sic! ) to attract and keep clients. And all that while playing these same heteronormative games within her escort identity using etymological Meta-codes of heteronormativity in her choice of semantics on her escort page (sic!) is moronic and hypocritical and very snaky indeed. Some people who speak with split tongues are not even smart enough to disguise their hypocrisy properly. Well, someone doesn`t need to be a Niklas Luhmann and de-code sociological propositions within semantics to understand which part of the sociological continuum within cultures the judging of a certain form of pleasure as “guilty” refers to : Namely heteronormative codes of conduct, not – for example – sexpositive codes of conduct! So, her own judgement of her work as an escort – again , she likes to indulge in “guilty pleasures” – is heteronormative. So she has no right to bash another escort for acting within these same sets of values and hence playing heteronormative “games” (Eric Berne) when conducting her business. And specially not with my words – because before she heard said terminus technicus from me, she did not even know about it. (And I am very certain she also did not know the book of Eric Berne, which I was referring to, when I talked about people playing games within relationships, as well. She probably just thought it sounds cool enough to parrot and copy paste)
Granted, she did not even understand a single word I said, let alone live up to her braggadocious copyright infringement and impersonation of other escorts, because no one charges for sex, to say the least. Escorts usually charge for secrecy. And I felt treated like an escort by this married man, because I was a secret, and not legitimate, and I would not do that anymore for free. That was the point of my victim – theory. No one needs to pay for sex, because anyone can go to get sex for free anywhere! It is just – if you are bound within the intricacies of a lifelong marriage on monogamous terms, you can`t usually enter a secondary relationship without doing serious damage to at least someone down the road. That is where Amour Fou`s in paid agreements fall in place. That was MY point when I tried to explain this to “Miss Delusional Inflated Sense of Self”. But lacking the brain she requires her “below 45 clients” to have, she just misunderstood my notion. So she went ahead and wrote some wannabe Anais Nin – story telling the never ending universe via the world-wide web that she always felt like a victim when she did not charge for sex…. (I wonder how her clients feel, then? Maybe like victims, too, because they need to pay her ?… )
Plus , by trying to impersonate other escorts unique lifestyle actually she contradicts the notion that relationships and sensual experiences can`t be compared. Because why try to be like someone else, if she truly understands and believes what she copy-pastes off from my private emails? So , if people copy others, then they should have at least the decency to support a minimum of said notions with their own attitude or lifestyle. But handing out grades from 1 to 10 for sensual experiences, she sees as competitive sport activities and a service delivered to her (while at the same time claiming she does not want to have reviews written about her, because it`s derogatory to judge sensual experiences) and copying other people`s ideas and notions (while claiming she needs “intellectual connection”) is indeed only empty bragging easily proofed by the content of her own homepage. She actually states that she needs clients between 35 and 45 years of age to proof to her their “intellectual acumen” , because – except for her, of course! – no one is capable of true intellect and emotional maturity before the age of 45 (sic!) and they “have less in common with her”, since they lack the approach to sensual experiences “by enhancing it with intellectual and emotional passions” . That is certainly one way to reflect on daddy issues . Well, we saw how the proclaimed intellectual and emotional maturity goes with her, let`s wave hello to infringement of private property like personal emails and copying other people`s reflections and pretending they are her work and her reflective ideas! Maybe she needs to advice her clients to copy paste something from people above the age of 45 to actually approach a date with her? According to her true intellectual status, that must be sufficient, and a guarantee, that two birds of a feather have found each other to embrace in passion??
Further she states she is someone presenting “quality over quantity” within the world of escorting. Some escort – again, not her!! – invented that term ages ago and she – again – copy pastes it without probably thinking twice. So not very much of an “intellectual acumen” presented by herself ( Or maybe in her case does that mean she only copy-pastes some emails of other escorts or her clients opinions and not all of them? Or only talks about the lackadaisical escorts presented by agencies and not the super ones?). No one ever knows what that phrase really means, but she probably thought: “why not take it and put it on my homepage without thinking twice, because it sure does sound like I must be awesome, then – because providing something of quality certainly sounds good”,- right?
So in her case, she contradicts the notion that she copied from me, by pretending she thinks, same like I do, that sensual experiences cannot be compared. By putting that phrase, which states a clear comparison of experiences with escorts , and wishing to be judged as “quality much rather than quantity” she does indeed compare sensual experiences. The comparison is set within the dichotomies of “quality and non-quality (aka quantity)” encounters as the two rather restrictive poles of comparison. So, again, do not steal other people`s intellectual property and pretend it’s what YOU think, when your whole attitude and homepage contradicts the stolen content. Not smart. To be exact, utterly stupid if you claim you look for intellectual connections, and wish that everyone below the age of 45 writes to her some proof that they are capable of producing “intellectual acumen”. Oh wow!
Again, some people are no Einstein`s and generally speaking there is nothing wrong with being utterly stupid and lacking even the smallest of brain capacity to do anything else than parrot other people`s opinion (preferably clients and other escorts) without understanding them, aside from admitting that you are a prostitute and charge for sex in a country (USA) where it`s illegal to do so - which standing by itself is already more than sufficient proof of someones lack of brain….. But, in this case, it`s specially cynical, since this escort has an inflated sense of self as well, and is – aside from her pretty obvious moronic stupidity -, looking down on other escorts, and their choice of work, writing derogatory and disrespecting speeches for 400$ agency escorts, on how she would not even move a finger for that kind of money and provide more than just a lackadaisical service (sic!).
To top this and move her blatant idiocy to an orgasmic peak experience, she is indeed claiming, that we all can learn something by reading that heap of delusional poo - (Again, I shit you not! I did not invent this – I swear!) – ending with a lecture on how sensual experiences can only be great if you write books of pseudo-intellectual poo poo to each other beforehand. To be able to even be elected for an encounter with her as the most intelligent representative of the demimonde , (- respectful silence -) you need to be able to trigger “intellectual discussions”. And if you`re one of these poor fellows like Mark Zuckerberg and Co. and just happen to be below the age of 45 you need to present her with proof of “intellectual acumen” beforehand, to get the slight possibility to date her. Because she does not believe that there is intelligent and intellectually stimulating life possible before the age of 45 – with her being the great exception from that rule with her extremely mature End-Twenties, yet again – which then can be used to enhance sensual interplay. She states on her homepage that she needs “cerebral connection”. I just wonder why she doesn´t use her own cerebrum for creating said connections, then? (sic! … Again, I shit you not! – ) Poor Mark Zuckerberg, there goes his chance! …..)
This blunt copyright infringement of private emails for financial gain might happen, because their own life is so plain-vanilla boring that they have to use other escorts stories to get some attention, or maybe because they are not as smart as they claim to be and can`t simply overstimulate the peanut-sized brain they seem to have. That is specially awesome and ridiculously cynical, when this same escort claims to have an university degree and being so overly smart in the legal field that even long-established and well recognised attorneys (sic! … I shit you not!) hold their breath and almost faint while having conversations with such a brilliant member of the seldom seen intelligentsia of the world. And being such an incredible member of the rare intelligentsia even without having the proper academic degrees to back up such blowing of smoke up their precious (or that`s what she thinks) behind. Even more wow. A born doctor honoris causa ! What a rare species indeed! (Cynic’s and Realists like me might think no one that actually has a profitable career outside escorting, does actually work with clients and advertise for clients living in the same city they live in…..)
It`s so much better to pretend to be actually as intelligent as your clients having the same career like they do which is clearly expressed on her homepage, where she compares her career to be like her clients. I assume she thinks just because they book her, and pay her, she must be on their payroll, like a hired professional for their company, right? Or, in the cases, where she hands out freebies, she considers it “pro bono” work, maybe? Hmm …. According to this sentiment this escorts peanut brain and the intelligence it holds must be in direct correlation to the amount of money charged and the amount of intelligence a client has. Her method of trying to attract escorts clients is by bragging about how similar she is to them and – same like she thinks they want – wants to escape for a truly loving Love affair! Oh wow! Two people at the same intentional level shall meet, according to her logic! (sic! … and again: I shit you not! A true story”). But – her logic again has more than one flaw – and shows she can`t possibly be even close to an intellectual – because why would she charge her clients then? And why would she not pay them? Or have a Love Affair (sic!) without financial benefits? In addition to this she also states that a “love affair with her won`t come cheap”, either! Maybe that very sophisticated (cynical mode on) photo on her page, where she holds a bundle of dollar bills in her hands – (are these One Dollar Bills, actually …….. ?) – for sure underlines what she REALLY wants, but lacks the proper marketing skills to sell? … (I am right about now gasping for air laughing - Generally speaking – what has love to do with money anyways? Specially with that one-way exchange of money?). Oh yes – again – she charges money, because she “always felt like a victim when people did not pay her for sex”, right? So maybe she is not even smart enough to think of a less contradicting and idiotic marketing strategy? That sufficiently explains why she copy-pastes content from other people`s page without wrapping her brain around it first, to see, if this content actually makes sense for her? So, now she wants money for love AND sex? Does she charge separately or does it come in an all-inclusive package? ( Lets hope for her “the law of attraction” is really just pseudoscience … ;) ….. )
Thinking about this kind of idiotic delusions mixed with arrogant attitude makes me wonder, on who is more insulted (or maybe flattered – depending on whose perspective you take … ) by that notion: The client or the escort? This makes me come back to Einstein and his famous quote that says that “Two Things are Infinite: The Universe and Human Stupidity“.
Further, It also makes me wonder on why e.g. no one has yet discovered such unmatched intelligentsia and offered her a scholarship to Harvard or else. I heard universities do indeed grant such things to such amazingly brilliant brains. Bummer! What a serious loss for the world! We could all learn so much, and yet here we are, dumb and stupid waiting for this escort to enlighten us with stolen content from other people`s emails and Pseudo Anais Nin Sex education on how to do “it” properly and in style! Not like – she says – some 400$ “lackadaisical escorts” (sic!) of course, those poor suckers can still benefit from her overwhelming chemistry and satisfactory qualities yet unmatched by anyone on this earth. 
– “sigh” – I am still shaking my head in wonders and maybe it is because – even if some think they are so awesome – they still need to get the basics of how to interact with people, or the basics of privacy, or of respect and courtesy towards other people’s intellectual property or other people`s sensual experiences and relationships, for example long-term marriages.
Or maybe it`s because this particular example of delusional perception of self is not really smart and maybe her clients or friends deceive her the same way like she deceives her clients – and gosh bummer – delude her with making compliments about her brain! Might be a slight possibility! Because some – even if they copy paste private emails and my Ideas – are not really capable of understanding the basic essence of what I wrote and used my own brain for, which makes them even more ridiculous, so ridiculous that even deleting these blog posts without proper apology does not help anymore.
Which makes me think that those 400$ escorts that are looked down by her at the same time might even be a lot smarter than she thinks they are. But then again – who cares? Escort blogs and homepages are patient, same like papers with black ink on it. I personally would just try to use a marketing strategy that is kind of bulletproof, and does not scream “I am full of cat poo and copy pasting opinions” when someone with full a brain reads the braggadocious pile of words with spelling errors inclusive – by an english native speaker, that said. Hollywood actors – for example – practice eagerly for months or years to adapt to the role they are creating, so it is surrounded by some authenticity. Just writing crap about how special you think you are and then contradicting it with other written crap that makes the cat poo obvious at the same time just does not cut it .
And it`s really just stupid, that the world-wide web is not as wide as the endless universe,or – like Einstein said – the stupidity of some people, and pieces of information have the habit of ending up in my mailbox with additional questions. Oh wow! In the related articles is a very important piece of information on how emails are “copyrighted information”. It`s actually fool-proof especially for pretentious wannabes.
Next time if some escorts use my private emails with my Ideas and Reflections on my Life and copyrighted intellectual property, I advise them to at least have the decency to a) spell right “, please – specially if you are a native speaker (which I am not) – and claim to be sufficient in english and brag about your superior intelligence – and b) quote me correct and with permission and c) ask me, if you don´t understand the essence of my messages, because otherwise I look like a fool , too, even if quoted correctly. Oh gosh! The last would be even worse than stealing my private emails and posting them without permission on some escort blogs and then deleting them without apology while denying their existence. Mille grazie! Muito Obrigada! Dankeschön! This episode made me have a wonderful “Déjà Poo 1“ (Def.: “The feeling that you`ve heard this crap before …”) with the notion, that there must be some Power in hitting rock bottom for some people, indeed .
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